"It was a long time ago," Dylan tells her, deflecting. It was awful, a trauma that consumed most of his adult life and still does, even if it's been taken care of. That's not the point, though; he's not trying to dick measure pain with her. It's more, "I just -- kids talked a lot of shit about my dad, growing up."

It's more than he understands. He can sympathize. That's what he's getting at.